Alison Lohman is delighted with her post-Hollywood life.
Lohman, 43, spoke about his decision to stop acting in an interview with the hollywood reporter celebrating the 20th anniversary of his first big movie white oleander.
“I always wanted to have children and a family, that was always something very important to me,” Lohman said in the interview published Monday. “In a way, if someone finds out that I was an actress before, in a weird way, it’s kind of annoying because they don’t see me anymore. The bubble bursts and now I’m an actress. Actress. I just wanna be me.”
Lohman’s big break came after playing Astrid Magnussen in 2002. white oleander, who also starred Renee Zellweger, Michelle Pfeiffer Y Robin Wright.
He left acting in 2009 after the movie. Player, in which her now husband, Mark Neveldine, served as co-director. After getting married, she and Neveldine walked away from fame to quietly start a family. The two of them they celebrated their 13th wedding anniversary in August, since then they have welcomed three children.
Opening up about the height of his fame, Lohman admitted: “At first, it was okay, you know, it was flattering. But, as an actor, there’s a certain amount of anonymity that I like to have. It’s hard to study people when they’re looking at you.” “.
She shared, “Usually I don’t like the attention,” however, adding that her publicist told her she needed to “accept” him as a famous actress.
For his latest film, Player, Lohman recalled meeting Neveldine on set and the amused reaction he had when she showed up.
“It’s funny because at first he didn’t like me and he didn’t want me for that part. I had these dreadlocks at the time, so I had another girl in mind. So when I walked in, he was like, ‘What is this girl doing here? “We don’t want this girl with dreadlocks. This is not going to work.”
He added: “It’s really funny because that’s how it started. Even for me, I didn’t understand the concept of the script, but now that I look back on it, it was way ahead of its time. It was a great experience though because I met Marcos “.
As for what caused her and Neveldine to leave acting and film, she said that was not the original plan. However, she was inspired after reading about a girl who owned a farm and loved gardening.
“It really started a little bit before that because when I was working on Girl, we traveled through Wyoming and I thought I didn’t want to live in Los Angeles anymore. I wanted to live in a place like this, in the country. That’s probably another reason why that movie made such an impression,” she said.
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The couple eventually bought a 200-acre farm in upstate New York, he said.
“It became another role for me, but it was real life. It was a lot of fun.”
Their lives changed even more after they became parents “and it was very difficult for me to return to acting.”
“I would see all these other actresses being able to have children and continue to work, but I realized it wasn’t for me,” she said. THR. “I miss it, but I can’t do two things at once, in terms of juggling motherhood and my career. I decided that I would be a mother and raise them and maybe later I would go back to acting.”
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For now, she is a virtual teacher through Skype, which she says “is a lot of fun”.
“So now I’m just waiting to see how life unfolds without putting too much pressure on myself to control it or plan it.” [what comes next].”
Considering her years away from Hollywood, Lohman said she is “almost never” recognized.
“The part I like about anonymity is when you meet someone and they don’t know who you are, they’re so different with you. That’s what you miss as a famous actor because people treat you differently and it’s true. You’re not really going through what normal people go through because it’s so spoiled and it’s not real. And I have to be honest, I love it,” she said, adding that he wants to be treated like “any other person.”
“It’s just real interactions and to be a good actor, you have to be able to experience and capitalize on these real moments.”